Parenting is divine, yet undefined! As a firstborn of 8 children, I never at any given point comprehended how heavy a task is to raise an actual family, especially where children are involved. Now thinking about it, I guess I imagined the apparent gender roles set by society made things easier for my parents.
I saw my father being the sole breadwinner which I imagined was not that hard because he has had a day job for as far as I can remember. He is a very hardworking man and all my life I have seen him take up different money-generating activities to top up his monthly salary. Honestly, when it comes to my father, there are days I totally felt some pity. I remember in high school, I almost never asked for money to attend any trip because I always thought “how much is that man going to sacrifice for me to go on that trip?”
As for my mum, I never thought of anything she did as work. As long as I have known her, she has been a housewife, especially for one time she used to sell second-hand clothes for women. At no point in my childhood did I ever consider her a “working mom”. She practically made sure our house was clean, meals are ready, and my siblings and I have clean clothes (this meant handwashing them) and have taken showers, got daddy and us ready for our “busy” days among other duties a housewife handles.
Today I am a grown woman and a mother of one beautiful 2 years and 5months daughter. what has changed? What’s my perception of motherhood and parenting? Do I appreciate my parents more? What do I think about the roles my parents per-took while raising us? What are the things I have debunked through parenting? Do I advocate for parenting? What are the missing gaps I have learned from how I was raised? What are my honest views on childbirth and parenting? What struggles have I had to deal with, especially as a first-time mum who wanted no kids?
Let’s just say these and more questions are much of why we have this site up. I will be sharing my own views on parenting and everything around it. Parenting has no manuscript but through sharing ideas we can do a better job as iron sharpens iron. I think the toughest thing to do is one nobody prepared you for because no one has hacked it anyway! it is just crazy to even imagine it.
So yes, welcome to my space as I share my experiences, lessons, and other people’s ideas only on parenting! Let’s enjoy this ride!
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“As for my mum, I never thought of anything she did as work. As long as I have known her, she has been a housewife,”untill I gave birth and stayed in the house doing the same weh 🙌breastfeeding itself should be counted as work😜